Good families don’t pretend to be good families—
Don’t strive to do it like it’s supposed to be done,
Don’t have anything to hide,
Or, having something to hide,
They don’t hide it,
But live with everything in full view,
Available to be seen and said,
Laughed at, or yelled at, or cried over, and talked about,
Brought up for review, reflection and revision,
Capable of being modified, altered, improved, changed.
Good families can be changed.
They are honest and vulnerable that way.
Bad families are fragile, brittle,
Incapable of self-assessment or self-correction,
They remain stuck,
Unseeing, unsaying, unchanging,